This is not a book against 12-Step programs. Think of 12 Step as a set of tools, and you have to build a house. You’re building that house on your own, and you’ll have to live in it when you’re done. The advice I give will help you learn how to use those tools to build the house that best suits you.

This is not a book that will lead to you buying DVDs, going to seminars, or taking workshops. I’ve seen a lot of other people with a This-Is-The-Answer book that is nothing more than a text version of an infomercial for what they’re really selling. I’m trying to encourage you to seek help from an established community near you, one that won’t charge you a dime for their services.

This is not a book that will ask you to believe in any spiritual dogmatic system, any religion, or subscribe to any established philosophical trope. I’m not mishmashing Eastern religions; I’m not rehashing self-help gurus from years past; and I’m not slamming a view of life, the universe, and everything down your throat. I’m also not telling you that whatever religion or philosophy you have is the wrong one. I do want to clear out some of the clutter in your mind so you’re free to think about who you really are and get a clear picture of what you believe.

I want you to read this book with an open mind. If you’re anything like me, you’re looking for the first thing you disagree with that you will use to discount the entire book.